I LOVE this quote! “Instead of asking why your partner lies, ask yourself why you tell the truth?…. Here’s what’s apt to happen as soon as you shift the focus by asking altogether different questions. * You begin to understand how important honesty is to you and why it is one of your fundamental values. [...]
Archive for November, 2010
Why Do You Tell the Truth?
Posted in Uncategorized on November 24, 2010 | 2 Comments »
I still love him but in a sort of we’re related way
Posted in Uncategorized on November 21, 2010 | 5 Comments »
I realized, as child and I made pecan pie for my ex who is down and out with a bad back that I really don’t hate him. I don’t even dislike him. I still love him. But it’s not romantic love. I love him in a, “Even though I may never understand in my heart and [...]
The Conversation We Never Had
Posted in Uncategorized on November 11, 2010 | 4 Comments »
A piece I wrote about my relationship two mos. before disclosure. There’s much more I see now while reading this about me and him and the us we were or seemed to be. The Conversation We Never Had “Why do you love me anyway? I’m a mess. A wreck. What’s wrong with you?” I asked over [...]
Old Writing – 3
Posted in Uncategorized on November 11, 2010 | 1 Comment »
When a BJ’s size Cheez-Itz box passes for a single serving snack you know you’re in trouble. I told my friend tonight I ate so many Cheez-Itz last night I was surprised I didn’t wake up with orange skin. It might have been quicker had I just emptied the box into my tub and dove [...]
More Old Writing – This Time about “Not Seeing”
Posted in Uncategorized on November 11, 2010 | 1 Comment »
Oh, it all seems pathetic and humorous to “see” what I was writing about the year prior to disclosure. This one I titled “Treasure Hunt” though I’d call it something different now. Treasure Hunt I failed my first test. I was four. Face up to a black metal mask I was scared and crying. I [...]
Old Writing – A gift
Posted in Uncategorized on November 11, 2010 | 1 Comment »
I found this pre-discovery piece of writing which I am so grateful for. In it, I was sad and stagnant and confused. I felt lonely and disconnected and I didn’t know why but the feeling was clear. Life, though so dramatically altered and different, is no longer what I felt here in this. I Am [...]
Full Up on Daily Life
Posted in Uncategorized on November 10, 2010 | 3 Comments »
I am “searching” for things to post. The hard thing about an anonymous and single topic blog is that as time goes on and there’s more space in the intimate places I used to share and visit and co-habitate with my ex, I have less to write about sex addiction and my own recovery from shock [...]
